Final answer to tough parenting problem (secret: is *love*)

Posted by Margaret on June 05, 2000 at 21:51:21:

I think it all comes down to love.

If the child you assume care over is out of your own true willingness and desire to love, - as opposed to being forced to by any other means on the outside - you could never shower them true love - because you don't feel it deep down inside.

On the other hand - when you do feel it deep down inside - then you know it is out os your own true desire and will -

and *that* is when the love you feel for them is like a bottomless well - never ending.

Under these conditions - the love one feels permeates all others around them and is this this power of love that is the greatest 'natural discipline' in the world.

So natural and powerful a force love is- that to call it discipline is almost a parody.

Because no longer is one behaving properly due to fear of negative consequences, but now is motivated in a forward motion -that of being happy to do so - out of feeling the gift of love.

And it is not gender biased.
Boys can feel, epxerience and be motivated by love too, of course.

Matter of fact I can think of a couple right now that deserve the tender, delicate golden treasure of love, no, make that three.

:)

Peace and love be with you all people!

Follow Ups:

• Love isn't just a feeling, you should care for a child whether you FEEL for it or not. nt Tiggy 21:11:58 06/06/00 (1)
  • That is exactly what I meant - love is following through with (being true) your commitment to love - to care and take care - whether you're in the 'mood' for it or not (nt) Margaret 20:55:58 06/12/00 (0)
• This is proof she is UNSTABLE and possibly Psychotic. "Liberal "flower children" - please - do not suggest more "love"." - Margaret Cory [nt] 21:59:45 06/05/00 (6)
  • Where's your boyfriend Biff? cupid 21:03:08 06/06/00 (0)
  • Cory, maybe it's the proof you needed. Others were already certain. Now that you know she is ill, how will you be with her? More condescension? She's ill. Do your best to remember this. nt Eric (yet2b) 01:22:05 06/06/00 (1)
    • Oh, he's with Eric ;) cupid 21:04:13 06/06/00 (0)
  • Cory - just accept love - life's to short not to!!! (nt) Margaret 22:02:46 06/05/00 (2)
    • Margaret, Get a Life Girl, something isn't quite right here, maybe you need a counselor of somesort. nt bb 22:25:26 06/05/00 (1)
      • Why is love so terrible? I'm missing something (huh?) - oh well -everyone has their own opinion nt Margaret 23:17:14 06/05/00 (0)

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