Posted by Patty on January 30, 2002 at 00:56:20:
I'm a 9 and am having some problems with my type 8 boyfriend, and I wondered if any other 9s out there have had similar problems. First of all, he is absolutely crazy about me; ever since he swept me off my feet a year ago, he has been the one putting all the energy into the relationship. He does so much for me and for us that it’s hard to keep up with him! On the other hand he has a quick temper, and I just don’t understand where his anger comes from. Fortunately it’s not usually directed at me, but when it is it’s devastating. Sometimes I have to laugh at what a wimp I am, since the slightest snap from him absolutely crushes me. However, the overall effect has been much worse than that. I realize that I’ve been gradually withdrawing from him, not telling him when something bothers me, and telling myself I’ll get over it. Now I just come to find out that he is on the verge of breaking up with me! He’s been feeling like I don’t love him any more and so he was ready to leave me. Luckily we’ve been talking it through and are starting to understand each other a little better. What scares me is that I don’t know if I can do it – maintain the communication required for a healthy relationship. I still find myself running away from my feelings and our problems. And finally, I just don’t know what to do about his anger. He’s so incredibly loving and caring, but there’s this angry side to him, and to be honest I don’t know if I can handle it.