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Enneagram Chat Board Archive my view...Posted by Ex on January 30, 2002 at 20:36:53: In Reply to: Re: Gender Differences posted by Sharlee on January 30, 2002 at 06:03:35:
: ### Good question. I actually asked myself that when I wrote it and ended up putting "somewhat". I think I mean I like to think men don't see you first and foremost as a sex object but value the other qualities of you as a person. In a systemic fashion, that then contributes to women not being as well recognized for their abilities (all clouded by the sex thing)and in extreme situations such as pornography, a dehumanising aspect which can infiltrate the subconscious and lead to a lack of conscience in some men who then treat women badly. part of the reason why i disagree with pornography is that it cheapens what should otherwise be considered rare and beautiful. of course porn/semi-porn is often stuffed down our throats, so it's sometimes difficult to react emotionally rather than physically to a female in the beginning... it usually takes time. however, personally, though my first reaction to a female is physical, i rarely (if ever) desire sexual relations upon meeting them. my main goal is to connect mentally and emotionally with them so that i can understand both them and the female gender better. only then would i consider sexual relations with them, as my belief is that sex should only happen love is also present, and love is a connection that transcends the physical. Ex
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