Posted by P on January 30, 2002 at 21:15:38:
In Reply to: Re: Gender Differences posted by P on January 30, 2002 at 08:43:06:
: : : : I would be happy for men to disagree with what I've reported and say this isn't always so as it would restore my faith somewhat.
: : : Your faith in what?
: : ### Good question. I actually asked myself that when I wrote it and ended up putting "somewhat". I think I mean I like to think men don't see you first and foremost as a sex object but value the other qualities of you as a person. In a systemic fashion, that then contributes to women not being as well recognized for their abilities (all clouded by the sex thing)and in extreme situations such as pornography, a dehumanising aspect which can infiltrate the subconscious and lead to a lack of conscience in some men who then treat women badly.
: : Of course, men's sexual drive is driven by an instinctual urge to procreate to further the species but it would be nice to see men who have this instinct in control and balance it with true love and compassion for their fellow humans. Sharlee
: ***I wonder about you. People are sexual beings. Some more than others. Men are first attracted to a woman sexually. Then emotionally, then mentally. Women work in the opposite manner.
: I give up. People are single because they have not figured out how men and women relate/cannot do it right.
****What I am saying is men and women are very different. Physically and psycologically. If a woman expects a man to be romantically minded all the time and a man expects a woman to be wet and horny for him all the time they are projecting for THEIR needs and not respecting what the other person actually IS. One must appreciate the opposite sex for their differences and be patient.
If a man is not horny he is probably very overweight or old, in which case he has low androgen levels to account for the lack of sex drive.
As far as a woman being chronically frigid I have not researched enough to know why.