Posted by Emily (68.13.144.194) on November 28, 2002 at 15:32:53:
In Reply to: Re: 4 & 9 posted by Flower Pagan (68.35.114.160) on November 28, 2002 at 02:20:28:
> Since you are a 4, doesn't it bother you when he wants to keep the peace and you want to discuss it with a little intensity at times?
Yes, that bothers me. I mean, it gets to the point where the only "intensity" I want out of him is to like, pick out the toothpaste or something. He can't do those things. He just doesn't care about little things like that. You can imagine my frustration when it comes time to make big decisions that affect both of us, and he can't help. He is extremely, maybe to an unhealthy point, focused on what is happening right here right now. Not 5 hours from now, not 2 minutes ago, RIGHT NOW. He's late a lot because of that reason.
> Does he get silent in the face of your anger?
Yes. I've had lots of conversations when I've been angry and it's just me talking to him and he has absolutely no feedback. His logic is, "You haven't asked me any questions, just said things, so what am I supposed to say?" Either that or he'll get extremely delf-depricating and agree with all the angry things I'm saying about him! I want him to fight with me!