Posted by Flower Pagan (68.35.113.192) on January 30, 2003 at 20:30:31:
In Reply to: On second thought... posted by Primer Gray (208.255.196.57) on January 30, 2003 at 17:56:42:
> > > I'd like to know, gang your answers to these questions. Please be honest and spare the wisecracks, please. Speak what you feel.
> > Ok, these will be my most sincerely honest feelings...
> >
> > > 1. Why do I want so much for Emily to accept my apology and especially for her to apologize?
> >
> > I have absolutely no idea, I've wondered idly once or twice, but then I stopped...figured it was your issue and you'd move on eventually.
> >
> > > 2. What would I do if she apologized? Would I go away or would I want more? Bear in mind though that it must be a real apology and not a trick like "I apologize for whatever you thought". I mean an admission from Emily of some wrong on her part.
> >
> > I just never could empathize with your feelings of persecution. I guess I think that if she apologized, you wouldn't believe her and would want to write the apology yourself and have her sign it...then complain about how she held the pen insincerely.
> > > Do you think that maybe I DON'T want this. Well then, why not test me? If I'm just looking to complain then let's see what happens if you denied me my rationale?
> >
> > I think maybe you've fixated on this FAR too long and should just accept that maybe you won't get an apology and the offense might not have been that grevious in retrospect.
> >
> > > Fair?
> >
> > Maybe...but this has gone on long enough that most observers doubt your rationality on this subject...your overreaction became counterproductive a
> > long time ago. In fact, someone new to both of you would be most likely inclined to sympathize with Emily for your odd fixation upon her.
> >
> > > 3. Should Emily apologize to me and accept my apology to her?
>
> > Hmm, I think you should not worry about it anymore. Move on.
> I don't think she owes you anything...she offended you and you tormented her for months. Didn't you do that to get back at her? Once revenge has been served, that squares things...apologies are moot after that. Revenge was done as what, the penalty for not apologizing? So, she gets your vengeance and then STILL is expected to apologize? Nope.
After reading this, it ounds like he is very demanding and want things his way. It is sad at the thought he may waste more years of his life away over his obsession over Emily. I remember reading his post about this has been going on for about 2 years or more. How many more years will this go on? I am trying to understand how can someone be this way for years.
FP