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Posted by Flower Pagan (68.35.113.192) on January 31, 2003 at 14:04:36:

In Reply to: Re: Your real problems posted by Perciever (64.156.238.250) on January 31, 2003 at 10:18:28:

> This website has no influence or significance than what one gives it. Its just a message board.

I agree with you!! I do question K.B.'s perceptions of his experiences on this board. Perhaps, this board take place of real life experiences. Do you think that is a possibility?

As for me, this board is a convient way for me to interact with people in conversations without the stress of building close personal relationships or leaving my comfort zone. I do talk to people when I go out, but I don't make the effort of making them into my personal friends, even when they give me their phone numbers, not sure what to say. Right now, I prefer to chat, post or email with people and allow possible friendships to grow slowly with time. I have my personal friends from home to be close to by phone, email, mail, chat and/or visitations. One of them is visiting me at the end of February. I just feel too overwhelmed with too much to do and building a strong relationship with Froggy with no time for the distractions that comes with getting to know people on a personal level in my private life at this time. If it happens and its worth the effort, then I accept the challenge of building a new friendship.

> I think you've got some problems in your real life you can't or won't handle and you project the frustration and grief onto this lame battle with Emily.

Wow! This seems strange to me since she is a faceless individual who is sitting behind a monitor, just like the rest of us. Is she a part of his emotional imagination? Is he imagining something personal with her? Is he trapped in the illustion of that cyberspace seems to create for some people? Or is this another one of his characters that he is acting out? Could it be a cry for attention? I really do want to understand him if it is necessary? I try to be understanding and reasonable, though I fail sometimes and wonder why sensative people still love me and want to be so close to me. I need to learn how to stop being Dr. Phil and be more nurturing, don't I?

> Its really pathetic. Have some damn pride, be a man and do something worthwhile with yourself.

I am sure if he took this advice to heart, he will feel a whole lot better about himself and see how foolish his hostility towards Emily is if he is sincere. He is lucky enough to have people to care enough to tell him the truth. If he is a withdraw type like I am, then exercise or get grounded in his body would be good for him according to Riso. He needs to get out of his emotions and I need to get out of my head!!! :o)

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> > This website has no influence or significance than what one gives it. Its just a message board. > I agree with you!! I do question K.B.'s perceptions of his experiences on this board. Perhaps, this board take place of real life experiences. Do you think that is a possibility? > As for me, this board is a convient way for me to interact with people in conversations without the stress of building close personal relationships or leaving my comfort zone. I do talk to people when I go out, but I don't make the effort of making them into my personal friends, even when they give me their phone numbers, not sure what to say. Right now, I prefer to chat, post or email with people and allow possible friendships to grow slowly with time. I have my personal friends from home to be close to by phone, email, mail, chat and/or visitations. One of them is visiting me at the end of February. I just feel too overwhelmed with too much to do and building a strong relationship with Froggy with no time for the distractions that comes with getting to know people on a personal level in my private life at this time. If it happens and its worth the effort, then I accept the challenge of building a new friendship. > > I think you've got some problems in your real life you can't or won't handle and you project the frustration and grief onto this lame battle with Emily. > Wow! This seems strange to me since she is a faceless individual who is sitting behind a monitor, just like the rest of us. Is she a part of his emotional imagination? Is he imagining something personal with her? Is he trapped in the illustion of that cyberspace seems to create for some people? Or is this another one of his characters that he is acting out? Could it be a cry for attention? I really do want to understand him if it is necessary? I try to be understanding and reasonable, though I fail sometimes and wonder why sensative people still love me and want to be so close to me. I need to learn how to stop being Dr. Phil and be more nurturing, don't I? > > Its really pathetic. Have some damn pride, be a man and do something worthwhile with yourself. > I am sure if he took this advice to heart, he will feel a whole lot better about himself and see how foolish his hostility towards Emily is if he is sincere. He is lucky enough to have people to care enough to tell him the truth. If he is a withdraw type like I am, then exercise or get grounded in his body would be good for him according to Riso. He needs to get out of his emotions and I need to get out of my head!!! :o)

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