Posted by Q Reus (63.190.105.80) on September 19, 2003 at 20:19:08:
In Reply to: 1 0r 9 posted by Hank (152.163.253.35) on September 19, 2003 at 01:19:15:
Hank, are you actually a nine? and is your wife a very frustrated three?
Teachers spend an inordinate amount of time on preparation, especially
when they want to SUCEED in educating students. Threes also want relationships to SUCEED. Slackers really frustrate threes, especially,
spouses who are not mission oriented. Result: Nine: who me? Three:
I do not know how to "handle" him. Observing party: She is so "pissed"
she seems like a carping one. So, how are you "helping" your wife? Is
it by letting her take the lead, set the agenda, do the work, while you
"help." That is what average to lower level Nines do while rationalizing
that it is "helpful" to the situation. Actually, it is reducing internal
conflict for the nine, while simultaneously infuriating the significant
other, who has no justification for being angry: after all, they are being
"Helped." Let's hear about what Hank does during the work week.