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Posted by Mikko on December 12, 2000 at 07:30:43:

In Reply to: Yes, I do posted by Elizabeth on December 11, 2000 at 15:27:15:

: Well, hello. Nice to meet you. Always surprises me when someone comes out and speaks their mind directly... uses truth instead of personal attack or manipulation. Definitely the way I prefer to interact but as a five I always hide in subtext when I have reason to believe I'm being worked. Was I wrong? Should I have trusted Perciever when he began drawing conclusions about my personality and asking me personal questions about my sexuality?

Maybe your style of replying lead him to adopt that style.

: You're right. I was saying all of those things. Not because I believed them but because I wanted to know where you really stood and didn't trust you enough to ask directly. I'm sorry... now that I know you're a straight-shooter, I won't play that way anymore.

Always speak straight with me.

: Now, here I did ASK not tell. There was just enough suggestion in what you said to make me wonder and not to draw a conclusion.

: SO WHY DON'T WE JUST CUT THIS SUBTEXT CRAP?

: Because everything we say is FULL of subtext and though it isn't plain and clear... it is where TRUTH lies. As a type five I love puzzles and seek truth. Ofcourse, using intuition means risking being wrong but more often it means finding life's interesting secrets.

Overinterpration? One of the reasons why people withdraw from interacting with others and feel like outsiders. I go to 5 when I disintegrate, you see, and I want to avoid that.

: An interesting distinction: accurate interaction between people as a goal rather than accurate interpretation of people as a goal. What type are you?

I'd take it granted that accurate interaction is more important. I'm an 8w9.

: If I say that something is reality, it doesn't mean I accept it. It simply means I've observed it happen and know it's a fact. Pretending it doesn't
: exist or happen doesn't really help, does it?

: I agree completely.

: I was trying to understand your position. A lot of people have double standards for sexuality between men and women. I may have been trying to work an advantage but more than anything I was trying to determine why you used the example you did and why you told the story the way you did. A few key phrases sent up red flags for me... I was investigating.

A lot of people have double standards for everything. I try not to be one of those people.

: Well, that's the straight story. This is my first real adventure off the five board (where most folk work discussion like me) and it has been quite interesting.

Yes, really.

Mikko

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: : Well, hello. Nice to meet you. Always surprises me when someone comes out and speaks their mind directly... uses truth instead of personal attack or manipulation. Definitely the way I prefer to interact but as a five I always hide in subtext when I have reason to believe I'm being worked. Was I wrong? Should I have trusted Perciever when he began drawing conclusions about my personality and asking me personal questions about my sexuality? : Maybe your style of replying lead him to adopt that style. : : You're right. I was saying all of those things. Not because I believed them but because I wanted to know where you really stood and didn't trust you enough to ask directly. I'm sorry... now that I know you're a straight-shooter, I won't play that way anymore. : Always speak straight with me. : : Now, here I did ASK not tell. There was just enough suggestion in what you said to make me wonder and not to draw a conclusion. : : SO WHY DON'T WE JUST CUT THIS SUBTEXT CRAP? : : Because everything we say is FULL of subtext and though it isn't plain and clear... it is where TRUTH lies. As a type five I love puzzles and seek truth. Ofcourse, using intuition means risking being wrong but more often it means finding life's interesting secrets. : Overinterpration? One of the reasons why people withdraw from interacting with others and feel like outsiders. I go to 5 when I disintegrate, you see, and I want to avoid that. : : An interesting distinction: accurate interaction between people as a goal rather than accurate interpretation of people as a goal. What type are you? : I'd take it granted that accurate interaction is more important. I'm an 8w9. : : If I say that something is reality, it doesn't mean I accept it. It simply means I've observed it happen and know it's a fact. Pretending it doesn't : : exist or happen doesn't really help, does it? : : I agree completely. : : I was trying to understand your position. A lot of people have double standards for sexuality between men and women. I may have been trying to work an advantage but more than anything I was trying to determine why you used the example you did and why you told the story the way you did. A few key phrases sent up red flags for me... I was investigating. : A lot of people have double standards for everything. I try not to be one of those people. : : Well, that's the straight story. This is my first real adventure off the five board (where most folk work discussion like me) and it has been quite interesting. : Yes, really. : : Mikko

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