The Peacemaker (the Nine)

Peacemakers are accomodating and are often out of touch with their anger.

Self-Preservation Nines: "Appetite"

• I am very attached to my rituals of watching TV, reading, working on my computer, sleeping extra long, going to movies, and so on, and I feel anxious when anything interferes with them.
• I tend to neglect important tasks and responsibilities and focus on my habits instead.
• Food is prime in my life. Sometimes I use it to numb out, distract myself, and cover up my feelings.
• I like to collect objects and information.
• Sometimes I have trouble throwing things away because I can't decide which really matter to me.
• I try to meet my own needs by keeping my home, car, office, or purse supplied with whatever I might want.

Relational Nines: "Union"

• I like the feeling of being in union with a lover, family member, friend, mentor, famous person, guru, pet, nature, or the divine.
• When not in a relationship, I usually feel melancholy and yearn to be.
• I try to make my partner happy, both to avoid conflict and because his or her happiness will rub off on me.
• I am usually so focused on my companion that I fail to notice what is going on with me.
• When my partner places demands on me, I either become stubborn, go away emotionally, or go along so as not to make waves.
• I often blame others for things that are not right with my life.
• Sometimes I long to be more independent and discover my own priorities, desires, and aliveness.
• I can stay with my own feelings best when I have an open expanse of time alone.

Social Nines: "Participation/Nonparticipation"

• In adddition to wanting to further causes, I join groups in order to structure my time, to soak up energy and become enlivened, to see how I can best fit in, and to discover where to direct myself.
• Though I gravitate toward groups, I sometimes feel ambivalent about whether I really want to belong.
• If someone becomes bossy or unpleasant, I often can't find the words to speak out, and I become stubborn or withdrawn instead.
• I often stay on the fringe. This keeps me from having to commit myself fully and from having to participate in conflicts.
• I bring my mediating skills and my ability to build consensus to groups.
• I often take the role of caretaker due to my tendency to want to be all things to all people. Since I automatically become involved in whatever floats by, I pick up nuances from others; but I'm slow to pick up and express what I myself feel.

Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele

Are You My Type, Am I Yours?
Relationships Made Easy Through the Enneagram
HarperSanFrancisco, 1995, 184 pages