Point Nine: The Mediator

The preoccupations of Point Nine include:

• Replacement of essential needs with inessential substitutes. The most important things are left to the end of the day.
• Trouble with decisions. "Do I agree or disagree?" "Do I want to be here or don't I?"
• Acting through habit and by repeating familiar solutions. Ritualism.
• Difficulty in saying "No."
• Containment of physical energy and anger.
• Control through stubbornness and passive aggression.
• A way of paying attention that reflects other people's positions, which can lead to
• Difficulty in maintaining a personal position, but also the development of a marked ability to sense others' inner experience. Similar to point Two, the Giver.

Helen Palmer

The Enneagram:
Understanding Yourself and the Others in Your Life
Harper & Row, 1988, 392 pages