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The Achiever (the Three)
Achievers try to be seen in a good light, according to socially agreed-upon
norms.
Self-Preservation Threes: "Security"
- Financial security is of the utmost importance to me.
- I need to keep physically fit and stay in good health.
- I continually learn new skills and keep up on the latest developments
in my field in order to achieve and hang onto my career goals.
- I'm a good team player; I try to get along and stay away from conflict.
- I rarely take time off; when I go on vacations, I often take my work
along.
- To me success doesn't necessarily mean being a leader or the center
of attention. The person I'm trying to compete with and please is me.
Threes of this subtype are usually less extroverted and less concerned
about image than the other two subtypes are and may be difficult to recognize
as Threes.
Relational Threes: "Masculinity and Femininity"
- I try to impress the opposite sex with my charisma, success, sexiness,
and strength.
- I have mastered the art of looking attractive.
- I pay great attention to what others find appealing and dress accordingly.
- I alter my behavior however I need to in order to keep my partner attracted
to me.
- I want to be envied for having a great relationship with an admirable
or prestigious person.
- I will avoid pursuing someone if there's a high chance of failing.
- I fear that people may want to reject me when they really get to know
me.
Threes of this subtype often resemble the relational subtype of their
Six arrow.
Social Threes: "Prestige"
- I am an energetic, efficient, and strong-minded leader. I motivate
people to do a good job, find clever solutions to problems, and I keep
my audience's attention.
- I am proud of my friendships with other successful and powerful people.
- The organizations I belong to provide me with good opportunities to
further my success.
- I get along in groups that are very different from one another.
- The way I fit into such disparate groups is by changing my personality
and attire to meet the situation.
- Credentials, titles, and degrees are important to me.
- Nothing would be worse than to be anonymous.
- As a thinking type, I tend to focus on the group's goals. As a feeling
type, I try to maintain harmony among the members.
Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele
Are You My Type, Am I Yours?
Relationships Made Easy Through the Enneagram
HarperSanFrancisco, 1995, 184 pages
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