The world values a champion. Avoid failures at all costs.
What helps Performers
The key word is "Stop." Leave time for emotions to surface
before hurrying to the next task. Find the fear of feelings that underlies
an urgent desire for activity.
Learn the difference between doing and feeling. Note when activity
is mechanical. Robotlike work suspends feelings.
Notice when fantasies of success replace actual abilities.
Stay with problems rather than veering off to new projects, discrediting
critics, or reframing failure into success.
Pay attention to postponement of feelings. "I'll be happy after
the next promotion," "We'll have more time after I get a
raise."
Notice when you feel like a fraud. "Nobody sees behind my mask.
Only what I do is seen."
Note unrealistic fears of failure when the work pace lessens.
Be aware when self-reflection or support group sessions become a task
to master or the next job on the schedule.
Learn to recognize feelings. Threes may have to start by naming the
sensations that underlie feelings. "My face is hot" or "My
belly feels tight."
A definite time limit for self-reflection softens the fear of
emotionality.
Begin with thirty-minute breaks and then back to work.
Get support in making feeling choices rather than staus choices.
Allow people to love who you are rather than what you do.
Helen Palmer
The Pocket Enneagram:
Understanding the 9 Types of People
Harper & Row, 1988, 90 pages