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Point Nine: The Mediator
The preoccupations of Point Nine include:
- Replacement of essential needs with inessential substitutes. The most
important things are left to the end of the day.
- Trouble with decisions. "Do I agree or disagree?" "Do
I want to be here or don't I?"
- Acting through habit and by repeating familiar solutions. Ritualism.
- Difficulty in saying "No."
- Containment of physical energy and anger.
- Control through stubbornness and passive aggression.
- A way of paying attention that reflects other people's positions, which
can lead to
- Difficulty in maintaining a personal position, but also the development
of a marked ability to sense others' inner experience. Similar to point
Two, the Giver.
Helen Palmer
The Enneagram:
Understanding Yourself and the Others in Your Life
Harper & Row, 1988, 392 pages
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