Need to be loved -> help others -> loved -> Need to be lovedUnhealthy loop controlled by Basic Fear:
In the healthy state, the need to be loved induces Type Twos to help others which causes them to be loved. When Twos feel loved, the need is satisfied and a balance is reached.
In the average state, when Twos' are not helping others and are not loved, the need to be loved increases, which helps Twos to again reach out and help others. Thus the balancing loop can help Twos to recover.
Fear of being unloved -> resent and manipulate others -> loved -> Fear of being unlovedInsight:
In the unhealthy state, the basic fear of being unloved can cause Type Twos to feel resentful and try to manipulate others into loving them. This can cause people to love them even less, which further increases Twos' basic fear. The cycle continues to build up.
We can see from the diagram that a way to help break the control of the basic fear is to weaken the unhealthy loop. Twos can refrain from manipulating others but start to genuinely help others. This will cause Twos to be loved, and thus reduce the fear of being unloved.
[Diagrams for 1-Reformer, 2-Helper,
3-Motivator, 4-Romantic, 5-Thinker,
6-Skeptic, 7-Enthusiast, 8-Leader,
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