Posted by Jan den Breejen on December 06, 1998 at 06:03:11:
In Reply to: COMING TO AMERICA -the SPOILED PRINCESS/PRINCE archetype in movies posted by Jan den Breejen on December 06, 1998 at 05:15:50:
Watching children can be a very good learning experience for ennea-watchers. Because children have not learned to change their behavior role to the situation; it's the authentic enneatype you see in action. I recently was told about an E2 child who had these behavioral traits:
- picking the largest piece of food from the table; seemingly without regard to the needs of the other table members
- allways dissatisfied; the need for getting things from the parents allways exceeds the supply; 'why didn't I get...'etc
- very sensitive: so easily hurt/indignant when somebody accidentaly forgets him when dealing the food (doesn't talk anymore; arms crossed; angry): 'I am not te be ignored signal'
- attacks smaller brother when he doesn't get what he wants (easy outlet for anger)
- pet lover; caring for animals in the childrens farm (not the very sick/hurt ones; he's too sensitive for these)
- seductive; looks 'cute' and succesfully charms other people (even strangers) to give him things and love
- makes presents for others but: when he has made something really beautiful he keeps it for himself!
- uses lies to get what he wants: suggests that to parent that the other parent has made a plan to go to the swimming pool in the weekend
- food maniac (looks and walks a bit like the Penguin man in the Batman Returns movie); 'don't we get ice cream?' after a lavish meal.
He's an INFP. The popular enneagram books who describe and E2 as 'helper' often misguide newcomers to the enneagram. At least this E2 boy is very lazy and sloppy indeed. E9's are more helpful when it comes to practical doing things for others. When you look to the E2 child you see what's behind the 'emphatic' facade of the adult E2: a cry for love; the I-word is what its all about. Things seldom are what they seem to be!
Anybody who knows a similar E2 child? Let us know the observable behavioral characteristics.
Jan