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: : Well, sometimes I feel that maybe my happiness and contentment aren't the numbe rone priority. I think when you FIRST ask "will it make ME happy?" you're bound to be hurting other people. That's the way I used to operate, and it was a disaster. I now try to think of others as well as myself. That's why I've gotten so upset with some of you: because you didn't seem to care about the others, just that you made your point and padded your egos. : I'm talking more about an enlightened way, which involves introspection, respecting others and so on. It's true that some people just don't care about how others feel. I think it's a result of an ego defense of some sort. If you are truly balanced (healthy or better when speaking in terms of Riso's levels) you'll notice others and their needs too. It's all about balance and being centered within yourself. If you are, you can support others rather than put them down. It's granted that not all people react well to this, but part of the self-awereness is understanding it's the other guy's/girl's problem, really, not yours. You don't have to participate in the other's suffering caused by his/her behavior. : I don't think anyone treading over others is truly happy. : : : Regardless of what the image may be, I don't necessarily 'want' to fight. But I'm more than willing to, as you've seen. I don't think there's anything wrong with fighting every once in a while. I also don't think anyone can expect the "fighting" to be civil all the time. Granted, I made a few comments that I should have omitted, and I apologised for them. : I understand your point, but I also am the moderator here. I'm expected to be the one who blows the whistle and decides when it's gone far enough. Sure, there are different opinions of what being "civil" actually means. I'm willing to allow fighting, but I also have an idea of when it's getting too far. : : As I said, there's nothing wrong with taking sides. I'd rather come out and say what I feel than keep silent just because people don't want "fighting". : By "taking sides" I was referring to reinforcing the current situation; beating the beater instead of really talking with him. You can fight constructively or destructively. I prefer the first option. Again, "what you feel." I'm not saying this to actually get an answer, this is just something to think about: What is the reason why you express your feelings, is it to understand the situation better or helping other understand it or themselves better, or is it just reinforcing something in your ego? Most ego projects are doomed to be failures, but genuine caring rarely is lost. What goes around comes around. : Mikko :

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