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Re: being a healthy 4; to the extent that I am

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Posted by Derf on June 27, 1999 at 15:20:48:

In Reply to: Re: being a healthy 4; to the extent that I am posted by Ev on June 27, 1999 at 12:48:47:

I was thinking about the crucial differences between average and healthy 4 the other day. Here's a rough sketch of what I reasoned out.

Note: this list is not an attempt to either measure or confirm *my own* health. There's a difference between idealization and actual self-mastery.

Average: I am stuck to the past, and look with hopeful ambivalence at a cloudy future - this is my business.

Healthy: I reveal myself moment-by-moment - this is my business.

Average: I appreciate others insofar as they can affirm my idealized notions of self and life.

Healthy: Since I appreciate others without burdening self-reference, my appreciation is both broader and deeper.

Average: I am not like others. I actively seek to be different, for the sake of being different in itself.

Healthy: Whether I am like others is of secondary concern; primarily, I consider myself tactful, tasteful, and spiritually enthusiastic.

Unhealthy: I yearn for the little trappings of the external world, and for external self-distinguishment.

Average: I yearn for enlightenment. Someday I will attain it.

Healthy: I am on the path of enlightenment. It never ends, though I am enriched constantly.

Comments are always welcomed. Filfre!

-Derf

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Re: being a healthy 4; to the extent that I am Hal 09:25:46 6/28/99 (8)
- Re: being a healthy 4; to the extent that I am Derf 20:29:49 6/28/99 (2)
  - Re: being a healthy 4; to the extent that I am Hal 09:12:44 6/29/99 (1)
    - Tactfulness and the need to be admired: inseparable? Derf 00:18:47 7/01/99 (0)
- Re: being a healthy 4; to the extent that I am Mustafa 15:05:33 6/28/99 (4)
  - Re: being a healthy 4; to the extent that I am Hal 09:13:49 6/29/99 (3)
    - aw, i cant understand.. ;P Mustafa 10:50:16 6/29/99 (2)
      - Re: aw, i cant understand.. ;P Ev, who may become known as Ve 17:28:51 6/29/99 (0)
      - Re: aw, i cant understand.. ;P Hal 13:55:27 6/29/99 (0)
Re: being a healthy 4; to the extent that I am Ev 23:00:32 6/27/99 (0)

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: I was thinking about the crucial differences between average and healthy 4 the other day. Here's a rough sketch of what I reasoned out. : Note: this list is not an attempt to either measure or confirm *my own* health. There's a difference between idealization and actual self-mastery. : : Average: I am stuck to the past, and look with hopeful ambivalence at a cloudy future - this is my business. : Healthy: I reveal myself moment-by-moment - this is my business. : Average: I appreciate others insofar as they can affirm my idealized notions of self and life. : Healthy: Since I appreciate others without burdening self-reference, my appreciation is both broader and deeper. : Average: I am not like others. I actively seek to be different, for the sake of being different in itself. : Healthy: Whether I am like others is of secondary concern; primarily, I consider myself tactful, tasteful, and spiritually enthusiastic. : Unhealthy: I yearn for the little trappings of the external world, and for external self-distinguishment. : Average: I yearn for enlightenment. Someday I will attain it. : Healthy: I am on the path of enlightenment. It never ends, though I am enriched constantly. : : Comments are always welcomed. Filfre! : -Derf

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