Re: being a healthy 4; to the extent that I am

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: : : I was thinking about the crucial differences between average and healthy 4 the other day. Here's a rough sketch of what I reasoned out. : : Note: this list is not an attempt to either measure or confirm *my own* health. There's a difference between idealization and actual self-mastery. : : : : >>: Average: I appreciate others insofar as they can affirm my idealized notions of self and life. : Unfortunately I feel this to be an accurate depiction of an average "4". It is this very point regarding how we view others that most embarrasses me about certain 4'ish character traits I've manifested at times. A great many of us go through life expecting others to validate our uniqueness and we get quite upset at those who don't. Oh, we may not speak it aloud, but under the pleasant facade it's ever so easy to not like them. I'm trying hard to eliminate this behavior from my repetoire and look forward to continued success. As they say, I'm a work in progress! : >>: Average: I am not like others. I actively seek to be different, for the sake of being different in itself. : >>: Healthy: Whether I am like others is of secondary concern; primarily, I consider myself tactful, tasteful, and spiritually enthusiastic. : Yea!! I'm actually on the healthy side of this one...at least for the moment. If I've learned nothing else I've learned that I'm not any more special than anyone else. I don't want to give the impression that I've become "selfless" because I don't believe I'm any less special either. :) : >>: Unhealthy: I yearn for the little trappings of the external world, and for external self-distinguishment. : >>: Average: I yearn for enlightenment. Someday I will attain it. : >>: Healthy: I am on the path of enlightenment. It never ends, though I am enriched constantly. : Don't know about these choices because I can see myself a little in all three categories. I'm not overly concerned about money and prestige but I'm not driven to be a pauper either. I'm ashamed to say that on occasion I've kinda gotten off to others admiring the things I possess. I'd like to get beyond this point and am not nearllllyyyy as bad about it as I used to be. Well I guess it's like jason says,"baby steps". : : : : Comments are always welcomed. Filfre! : : -Derf : Hey derf, you asked for it and you got it!! Why do I have thoughts of Toyotas in my head???

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