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Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive Feeling threatened by othersPosted by Devora-Leah on April 15, 1998 at 12:28:50: I'm looking for a little validation from other Fours who might feel the same way. I find myself often feeling threatened by other types, I think particularly 3's and 8's. They come on so strong in their self-confidence and even self-aggrandisement. An incident at work yesterday is the perfect case in point. I am the lead technical writer on a project. We just hired a new writer, Lori, who will work on the same project. A co-worker brought Lori by my office to introduce her to me. The first thing she said was, "Oh, I heard you're the lead and go to the core team meetings, but they [the team] still come to Jane for decisions!" Jane was the lead before, but since she is busy with other projects, I moved into that position. Well, I guess Lori felt she had to put me in my place within the first 30 seconds of meeting me! I sort of wimpily and self-deprecatingly (to my own consternation) tried to explain that I am still quite new to the company, which is why Jane has much more expertise in making decisions. But it didn't really matter what I said -- I already felt very inferior. Lori spent the rest of the conversation managing to point out all the professional awards she has won. I just wanted to vomit! Besides that, I wanted to run away and hide. I just can't deal with such in-your-face kind of people. I have very little Three and just can't tolerate pretension. I'm not very good at political games and I tend not to answer back. As an introverted Four with a Five wing, I get very quiet and nervous around them. Any tips for alleviating my discomfort? By the way, are there any tech writers out there? I wouldn't think it would be a very Four profession, but I'm stuck in it for now. I'm interested in hearing about Fours' careers. My job bores me; my avocation is creative writing. I know that eventually I will have to get into something more creative to feel more satisfied. Sorry this is so long -- it's a weakness of mine to write too much!
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