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Re: Feeling threatened by others
Re: Feeling threatened by others
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Posted by aegk on April 16, 1998 at 10:47:28:
In Reply to: Feeling threatened by others posted by Devora-Leah on April 15, 1998 at 12:28:50:
Amen! To give 8's their due, I know that their typical response is to
test the waters to see how far they can go and how safe the environment is.
It's not particularly fair or pleasant, but in my experience it's almost
completely impersonal (i.e., would have been directed to whomever was
there). The kind of thing you're talking about, though, gets me pretty easily, too.
I don't know of anything to help, except that I'm VERY sympathetic to what
you feel. For me owning up to my own response has helped
to be able to walk away a bit without feeling like such a putz. I also
think I feel (unconsciouly for the most part) that if I am unconnected
to anyone, I am being abandoned, and thus I try to feel connected to people
who in fact I feel very little in common with. On the other hand, though, I do know that we all have
a right not to be treated rudely or disrepectfully, and that power games
are an unfortunate reality of the workplace - there are wackos out there
of every type who also really need to climb over others - don't let 'em! I'm also a wannabe writer and that's not what I do for a living. Seems
pretty typical. I hope you hang in there and honor your desires and talents. Cheers and keep your chin up!
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