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A friend needs help
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Posted by Diarmuid on June 30, 1999 at 06:05:36:
I have a 4w3 friend who is, obviously, going down the tubes fast.
We went to the same graduate school, and ended up working in the same field.
He isn't doing too well with women right now. He hasn't been with anyone for about 2 years, since college.
Since then, he's gained a lot of weight. He always refuses when we ask him to come out with us. He just stays at home, vegging out with TV sports and beer, taking no real exercise.
He's quite a talented musician, and he never stops saying he's gonna buy a 4-track recording system. As soon as he gets that system he's really gonna get the creativity going... but he has to save up the money first.
He's on a really good salary, he only owes money to his Dad (who would gladly let him off the debt to see him happy). After 8 months he still can't afford the system, (which costs less than a week's salary).
His younger brother has come to visit him twice this year. By chance I was present both times. He's still at college, slim & goodlooking with a nice girlfriend. The first time he was in a really foul temper, often snapping at his little brother for small mistakes. The second time, 2 weeks ago he was in a blind rage, walking around in his underwear, muttering to himself, kicking stuff, talking to nobody.
As a 4w5, I'm able to be objective; observing and assessing my friend's condition (with an insight into the 4ish nature). But I care about my friend, and I worry that he may be considering the S-word.
All thoughts needed here He is drinking an adopted child
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