Posted by Summer on June 30, 1999 at 09:58:00:
In Reply to: Re: And Another Question...! posted by Ev on June 30, 1999 at 09:03:44:
I can relate too. I used to be so shy and standoffish, that when I started getting older and gaining my confidence, I overcompensated sometimes. A few people had told me they thought I was a snob before they knew me. So for a while there, I began to make extra efforts with people just to show them that I actually was nice & fun. It was all for the desire to be liked by everyone.
Now, I don't try so hard - I am just being myself. And I don't endlessly question myself when I don't like someone. If my instincts tell me not to like them, then I don't. And my instincts have been right so far. It's funny, when I was younger, I never trusted my instincts enough & I ended up trusting & befriending people I shouldn't have. Meanwhile, these very same people I cared so much about liking me, were not people that I even liked at all! Crazy, eh? Now I know better. They are not people I would ever hang out with now.
I'm quite discriminating. If there's no connection, and especially if their values and outlook on life don't match up with mine - it's not going to work.
I've always taken friends very seriously, so when they've hurt me in the past, it can hurt as much as a love relationship. These past hurts make me quite cautious at times!
;-)