How I dealt with it...

Posted by Emily on June 29, 2000 at 14:07:08:

In Reply to: How do you react when.... posted by Amanda :) on June 29, 2000 at 05:39:14:

My junior year of high school, my best friend since 6th grade, Kelli, moved away to Tucson. Her dad's job transferred, and there was no way for her to stay in Omaha. Up to that point in my life, the experience of her moving was probably the worst thing that had ever happened in my life. We were like sisters...and I'm not just saying that because it's a convenient cliché. I was always over her house, or she was always over here, and if not, we'd be on the phone. I went on family vacations with her parents, her brother, and her, and she'd go on them me my mom and I. I knew her extended family, spent one or two christmases with them, and same for her with my family.

So, when she moved away, I felt like I lost the other side of me. I felt abandoned by her, and angry at her, even thought she didn't have any control over the situation. I felt like she was leaving and wasn't trying hard enough to stay. I remember the day she left. I was at her house, I had spent like the whole week over there, and her dad said, from the other room, "Emily, your mom's here to pick you up." So I just sat there, and she sat there, and we were both crying. Finally after like 5 minutes I stood up, and so did she, and we hugged for like 3498508505803 more minutes, then I left. I had to go into work afterwards, and I didn't tell anyone what had happened, although they all asked and wondered what was wrong. I couldn't take how lost and scared I was without her.

But here I am, about 2 years later, and I've learned to be my own person, and not "Emily and Kelli" anymore. It's nice, since we're still close, but we're not as attached as we used to be. Kelli moving away was probably the best thing that could have happened to us. We learned how to be independent.

-Emily, who lives more than 1000 miles away from most of the important people in my life

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