Posted by heatherb on June 30, 2000 at 06:34:40:
In Reply to: just for fun--one more try posted by janis on June 29, 2000 at 16:38:30:
I've never been attracted to arrogant or go-getter types. You could say that 3s, 7s and 8s have never been on my wish list! They intimidate me and make me feel kind of uncomfortable.
I've always been attracted to the odd-ones out, the quiet ones, artsy eccentric types... The ones with a mysterious air about them. Fours and Fives... But I've also liked guys who seemed to have some sense of purpose, a sense of responsibility, a direction, and commited, (is that the description of a 6?) because I could imagine myself being "rescued" by a guy like that. Someone with romantic dreams, who would have the confidence and security to actually try them out...
I'm talking about crushes and infatuations here, because I never dated before meeting my husband... (well, one guy... just 3 or 4 dates. A frat boy.. ugh!...I ended it quickly!!)
I always thought I would end up with a person JUST like me -- moody, depressive, analytical, intense, romantic, nostalgic, sensitive... In college all the guys I liked were like that, artists... But I think that would have been a bad relationship for me. We would both be SO needy, and take everything so seriously that I don't think it would work. Two self-absorbed people don't compliment eachother too well, in my opinion.
In my guy, I found a combination of all the things I liked, and needed: rational/logical, NOT arrogant, caring, romantic, nostalgic, intelligent, commited...
I am still trying decide what type he is exactly, because I think he is mainly a 5, but I wonder if he's a 9 sometimes, because he tends to be complacent, he's not a man of action! He has lots of ideas, he's a dreamer, but most of the time none of it happens.
He's a 5w9, I think. And it's actually that 9 wing that bothers me sometimes...