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Re: Reality check bounced!
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Posted by Elk on July 10, 1999 at 18:25:08:
In Reply to: Re: Reality check bounced! posted by Ev (ex wolf candidate) on July 10, 1999 at 15:32:05:
> Hello Lone Wolf, :)
> I can totally relate to just about everything you've written. Too much togetherness is a very bad thing in my opinion. I *need* space and solitude in order to recharge the batteries and if I don't get it people are going to start experiencing one very cranky boy! I can go for quite a while interacting with a small group of people I'm in tune with but as the numbers increase my stamina decreases.
> I remember times as a child when I was at week long family reunions where I'd just go stand out in the yard by myself. It sounds kind of freaky but I didn't really have anywhere else to be without being surrounded. My parents and sister are all extraverts so they were oblivious to my problem.
> I found that you can learn a great deal while standing in the front yard. For instance, I learned that *anything* is better than having the energy sapped out of you by too much *togetherness*. I learned that it was my responsibility to see that this didn't happen because nobody else understood my need. But, most importantly, I learned to wear a really warm coat if you have to make your escape on a cold winter day. :)
> To sum this all up I'd say that introversion and extraversion are both perfectly natural and normal ways of interacting with the world. Don't think that you are odd or any less normal because your *preference* is introversion.
> Ev Ev, thank you for your input! I have done some time in the yard myself... Most of the time, though, I pretended I
was doing something when I went off somewhere because I would usually be left alone if I looked busy. I was
brought up to be an extrovert, being alone and quiet was seen as negative and I was always asked what was
wrong with me if I wanted to be alone. So, I guess I thought there WAS something wrong with me since I needed
to be alone so much, and I guess I still do in a way. It's like being extrovert and social is The Right thing, the
'Normal Standard', while being introverted and not-so-very-social is looked down on. It was/is in my environment
anyway. You are right, I would like to believe, that introversion and extroversion are both perfectly natural and normal
ways of interacting with the world. Maybe we all should be better at accepting the fact that there ARE extroverts
and there ARE introverts - and not try so hard to change one another. (I wish 'em extroverts would shut up and
leave me alone!!!! *g*) Elk
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