Re: And now for a look at the other side of the coin....

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: Amanda, : A few comments to your post......(I added the >'s to distinguish your text from mine) : >: OK you two....are we having fun in 'introvert heaven' yet? :) : You betcha! There's always a party going on in my heaven! (To quote Kurt Cobein, "I'm so happy, 'coz today I : found my friends, they're in my head...") : >: I thought a word from an extrovert might not go astray at this point.... : >: As a 'screaming extrovert' (as Derf likes to call me :) - I have found great value in taking some time out from the : >'maddening crowd' from time to time - although I do find it quite taxing after a while - and need to go and seek : >out some company to re-charge the batteries....or to clarify my thoughts. : I can relate to that. I need some 'input' or 'feedback' from other people now and then. I never re-charge my : batteries in the company of others, though, I need solitude for that, but I sometimes seek the company of others to : clarify my thoughts, or to have a small doze of the 'real world'. Other times I seek the company of others simply : because I like my friends and their company! *s* I never seek the company of people I don't know, though! : >:A friend of mine is the classic introvert and is like my mirror image. The point is, a little respect and : understanding of each other can go a long way. Variety is, after all, the spice of life! : Hear, hear! :-) : >: Families (of origin) often think they 'know' us - but often forget that we have grown and changed with the years. : >:Sure, they know where we came from - but that's no guarantee that they know us now (unless, of course, : >:they've been around the whole time....but even then....). It's even worse if we were never really understood in : >: the first place - which is the common complaint of the 4! : Yep. When I was a kid, nobody understood why I wanted to be alone. So, I tried to change and become more : social than I liked. (Because there had to be something wrong with ME, of course. The typical Four thinking.) : Before I realized what was going on, I had become the clown of the family, and later of my friends. Always : talkative and entertaining. I hated it! But it went on for many, many years. (So, maybe my 3 wing was stronger : back then, since I was trying so hard to adopt?) : Now that I have 'found the true me' (or at least what seems to resemble my OWN view of who I really am), I still : get the 'what's wrong with you?' reaction when I am not the talkative and entertaining clown. I caught myself going : back into that old role a couple of times, though, when I was around people that 'know me'...(when I was : visiting my family and old friends). : As for me working on my 3 wing; what I have done so far is trying to find some sort of ambition... I used to be : creative just for fun, because I 'had to' for my own well-being. Now I have gone 'commercial' and try to make a : living out of things that I make. Which means I sometimes have to make things I don't really like, but I know it will : sell. (People in general have no taste at all, I tell ya! *lol*) I have also become more 'concerned' about the way I : look, which I guess could be a 3-wing thing. : I think there is a really fine line between 'adopting' in order to meet people half way, and being overly concerned : about what other people might think. : I dunno..... : Elk

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