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Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive Re: I shouldn't ask for adive that I know I won't/can't follow..Posted by Hal on July 13, 1999 at 08:19:23: In Reply to: I shouldn't ask for adive that I know I won't/can't follow.. posted by Matches on July 13, 1999 at 04:05:04: Matches, All I can say to all this is "nonsense". You are not sick. There is nothing wrong with you. You do have what it takes to change. Okay, that's not all I can say... I've been where you are many times, and for long periods of time. I know it all seems bleak and hopeless, and sometimes too desperate to make you even want to try. But it won't always be like this. And I know it doesn't help you at all to hear this right now, but I feel a need to offer encouragement. From what I know of you, you are a wonderful, loveable person, and I wish I could help you find this within yourself. There are many ways of seeing your situation; I can just think of two right now. One is to step back and see that there is really nothing wrong with you. You are bombarded by awful feelings at the moment, but underneath that, you are just fine. I know that for a 4 stuck in this place, this is exceptionally difficult to do, so if you can't, don't worry about it. It's not required. The other thing to see is that all those great qualities you see in others are really a mirror for yourself. If you didn't posess those qualities, you wouldn't envy them in others, probably wouldn't even notice them. You envy them and feel they're lacking because either they've gone undeveloped up to now, or you've temporarily become disconnected from them. Try to look within to find them. I hope you have some close friends around who can help you look, and are willing to listen. You always have friends here on the board, but it's often not the same as a person right in front of you. Be good to yourself, and post here whenever you feel the need. You are in my thoughts and prayers. - Hal -
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