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Posted by Devora-Leah on April 19, 1998 at 20:14:53:

In Reply to: Re: depression posted by Ayla on April 19, 1998 at 18:59:25:

I don't want to keep you from your daughter, but here a few more responses to your last posting. I'm so excited to have found someone with whom I seem to have much in common with -- I don't find many sensitive people out there.

As for wings, I don't know of any test. I guess you just look at the 2 possibilities (for us, 3 & 4) and see if they fit you. I have little 3. Well I have some of the desire to succeed (probably impressed upon me by my 1 mother) but not the cut-throat thirst for competition. Nor am I much concerned by status symbols and materialism. On the other hand, I think I have a lot of 5. I like intellectual challenges. I always loved school as a kid, perhaps because from teachers I got the effusive praise that my mother was unable to give. I took an Enneagram test just for fun, knowing already that I was a Four. To my surprise, I scored equally in 4 & 5. I know I am definitely a 4 and not a 5, but I must have a strong 5 wing.

I scored next highest in 1, and I attribute this to my mother trying to cram her 1 values down my throat. I do have perfectist tendencies in some areas (though not about home organization!). 4's are supposed to integrate to 1, but in some ways this revolts me a little because I think right now I'm in a stage in which I'm sort of rebelling against my mother's 1 values (like keeping house in a far from perfect manner).

On another tangent, you spoke of sitting and rocking yourself. Do you mean in a rocking chair? This is very interesting, because one of my "hobbies" is rocking! I've never heard of anyone else who rocks. I started it when I was 2 years old, and I still rock in the same rocking chair we had then (I appropriated it from my mother!). It used to drive my mother crazy -- she'd wonder how I could sit and rock without "doing anything." But I like to rock and daydream and consider all my thoughts and feelings. I truly believe it's essential to my mental health.

Talk to you later . . .

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Re: Wings, etc. Ayla 18:42:01 4/20/98 (5)
- To Ayla and Devorah Michelle 17:34:42 4/21/98 (4)
  - Re: To Ayla and Devorah Ayla 10:28:16 4/22/98 (3)
    - Re: To Ayla michelle 11:47:38 4/22/98 (2)
      - Re: to Ayla and Michelle Devora-Leah 19:00:48 4/22/98 (1)
        
        Re: to Ayla and Michelle Michelle 12:34:35 4/23/98 (0)

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: I don't want to keep you from your daughter, but here a few more responses to your last posting. I'm so excited to have found someone with whom I seem to have much in common with -- I don't find many sensitive people out there. : As for wings, I don't know of any test. I guess you just look at the 2 possibilities (for us, 3 & 4) and see if they fit you. I have little 3. Well I have some of the desire to succeed (probably impressed upon me by my 1 mother) but not the cut-throat thirst for competition. Nor am I much concerned by status symbols and materialism. On the other hand, I think I have a lot of 5. I like intellectual challenges. I always loved school as a kid, perhaps because from teachers I got the effusive praise that my mother was unable to give. I took an Enneagram test just for fun, knowing already that I was a Four. To my surprise, I scored equally in 4 & 5. I know I am definitely a 4 and not a 5, but I must have a strong 5 wing. : I scored next highest in 1, and I attribute this to my mother trying to cram her 1 values down my throat. I do have perfectist tendencies in some areas (though not about home organization!). 4's are supposed to integrate to 1, but in some ways this revolts me a little because I think right now I'm in a stage in which I'm sort of rebelling against my mother's 1 values (like keeping house in a far from perfect manner). : On another tangent, you spoke of sitting and rocking yourself. Do you mean in a rocking chair? This is very interesting, because one of my "hobbies" is rocking! I've never heard of anyone else who rocks. I started it when I was 2 years old, and I still rock in the same rocking chair we had then (I appropriated it from my mother!). It used to drive my mother crazy -- she'd wonder how I could sit and rock without "doing anything." But I like to rock and daydream and consider all my thoughts and feelings. I truly believe it's essential to my mental health. : Talk to you later . . .

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