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Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive My Top 10 Indications That You May Be a FourPosted by Devora-Leah on April 20, 1998 at 16:32:04: Top 10 Indications That You May Be a Four: 10) Happiness bores you; suffering is beauty. 9) When asked "How are you?" you cannot help but recount your latest life tragedy to your poor unwitting listener. 8) When you’re sad or down or grieving over one of your great loves, you listen to Simon and Garfunkel’s "I am a Rock" to feel better. 7) You are absolutely mystified by people who describe idyllic childhoods. 6) Every time you give a gift to someone, you are convinced that it won’t be reciprocated, or at least not in the vein of your superior measure of thoughtfulness. 5) You want deep communion with your significant other one minute, the next you want your own private dwelling in northern Alaska. 4) You are deeply shocked by the insensitive and stupid clods populating this planet -- why wasn’t everyone created like you? 3) The overwhelming majority of your private thoughts begin with "If only" -- if only I were loved enough, if only I had the qualities she has, if only I were anyone else but me, then I would be happy . . . (which of course you don’t really want to be anyway!). 2) You corroborate with Freud on one thing -- you’re equally convinced that everything that’s wrong with you is your mother’s fault! And the number one indication you’re a Four is: 1) You’re convinced that if you could only fully and precisely express that unique store of complex feelings that you thrive on, then you would be truly known, your existence and essence would be validated, and you would feel whole (and you always leave your reader with a "lump" like this at the end -- even of a humorous piece of writing -- as my Two friend would say!).
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