Re: 4's and conflict.

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: : I've actually been reading this board for a reallyreallyreally long time, but today is the first time I've : : ever posted anything on it. I'd like to say that this place is incredibly interesting! (the only reason : : I've been a lurker for so long is cause I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to post regularly). What I like is : : the way everyone lets their personalities shine through, and is able to reveal so much of themselves : : even though this is only a text medium. I really like it when people have a lot of strength in character : : and aren't afraid to let it show - especially cause in this society people are encouraged to be : : sociable and yet to keep themselves hidden. What you get is a lot of gossip and people who can : : talk for hours without actually saying *anything*! : : : : One thing I noticed on this board is that there is frequently a lot of conflict and hurt feelings, or : : discussions involving controversial topics which generate strong emotions. This reminds me of : : something I've experienced myself - a push and pull when it comes to wanting my life to be : : interesting and dramatic and at the same time not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings or cause trouble. : : I get bored with my life sometimes if everything is going evenly, so my desire to stir things up conflicts with my : : with my desire not to bother everyone else. Usually I resolve this by just not doing anything and : : retreating into my head, where I can cause as much inner turmoil as I want without affecting anyone : : else. ;) Usually I'll take the mature way out when solving a problem, while secretly wishing I could be : : immature since immature people often have the most interesting lives. : : : : Can anyone relate to this, or am I just applying my personal problems to the board in general? : : Yes, I can relate!! There's nothing I can add to what you said, because you said it all! That push and pull when it comes to wanting my life to be interesting and dramatic, but at the same time not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings... I know exactly what you mean. And I do the same to deal with it/resolve it: I retreat into my head and that's where I have all the dramas and inner turmoils... The problem is that most of the time I feel like my head is going to explode! And unfortunately, I end up affecting others anyhow! Because I get so confused or daydreamy that I might appear depressed for no reason (although in my head there are plenty of reasons!) and then I have to explain what the matter is... And sometimes words just don't cut it, and I simply feel misunderstood! : But oh well... That's the constant: to be misunderstood! : btw -- welcome to the board! Glad you posted!!

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