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Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive Re: To AylaPosted by michelle on April 22, 1998 at 11:47:38: In Reply to: Re: To Ayla and Devorah posted by Ayla on April 22, 1998 at 10:28:16: Hi Aya..and thanks for your posting. I really give you crdit for getting away from your ONE mother. My ex hubby almost KILLED me literally, left me in South Africa after taking all my money that I earned signing in a show..! and deserved it ! He really believed it was the RIGHT thing to do to steal all MY money because his opinion was that he helped me earn it..and that I couldnt have done it without him! (He WAS pretty much like my manager backstage, similiar to IKE TURNER though I must admit). Since getting away from him (last February) my life has changed dramatically. I have a new man (A nine)..thatnk GOD.who is not hard on me at all..as far as the criticsm, overly pickiness, total judgement etc. My ex hubby used to atually pick stuff off my fae a lot if I had something on it ..in front of people..and wouldnt even mind if it EMBARRASSED ME if it was "correct" in his eyes.YIUK!! Im so glad to be away from him now..its like this huge noose has been relesase from around my neck. I did have to lose 71,000 that I SAVED...just to rid myself of him but it truly was worth it. His UNHEALTHINESS (drug and alcohol induced rages) and my UNHEALTHINESS (total depression at that time) I must say was a dreadful combination! What I mean by going towards the healthy ONE..for instnace in my new business. I can just sit and sit and do nothing towards marketing my business..(which I get tempted to do quite often) or I can find the DISCIPLINE within MYSELF to do what needs to be done to take care of things. TO take care of little specific details that I noramlly would brush off makes me feel good, much more responsible...and also once I get started I am amazingly efficient!! (Just like HE Was..and he told m Id never make it without him! haha) My DISCIPLINING myself by going to my ONE is truly helping me INTEGRATE my personality which has the opposite tendencies. Thanks for listening...KEEP IN TOUCH!
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