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Re: a question about love
Re: a question about love
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Posted by Matches on August 19, 1999 at 15:07:20:
In Reply to: Re: a question about love posted by Amy on August 19, 1999 at 14:24:45:
Amy, I know what you're getting at. I can relate to the way you feel. Wondering if you are putting too much emphasis on your relationship. Unfortunately, I am one of the last people on earth qualified to talk about, as you put it, "healthy relationships." But don't get too down on yourself about takig things too personally! If this is love we're talking about, what can be more personal? I hate it when people say, "Its nothing personal." That's like saying, "Hi, you look like a person with a heart and sould and feelings, but I don't feel like respecting them. Its nothing personal."
: Matches, Jason has the idea of what I was getting at. So I guess what I'm wondering is how you know if the circles are overlapping more than they should. Do you guys think it's something a person really does know as long as she's honest with herself? I know that I'm currently confused about my relationship with my boyfriend. To me, a "significant other" relationship is the most important thing in life. I know that not everyone thinks that way, and I wonder if I'm making my relationship with my boyfriend too important. I know I have self-esteem issues to work on. Maybe I'll have a better concept of what a "healthy relationship" is when I feel better about myself, because I really don't think I can trust my judgment all that well regarding this relationship at this point in time. My feelings get hurt way too easily and I take things personally that I shouldn't.
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