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Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive Adding to the dilemma...Posted by Will on August 19, 1999 at 15:59:37: In Reply to: Re: How do you deal with anger? posted by Ev on August 19, 1999 at 12:31:22: First of all, Thanks Ev and Summer, and anybody else who might have input after I write this. I definitely think she has a lot of 2 in her. She is ESFJ according to MBTI. I don't know if that correlates with Etype 2 but I think it does. Anyway, we made plans a few months ago (before our initial rendezvous) for her to visit me in September. We haven't talked about that since I decided not to visit. Knowing myself, I am going to avoid the issue entirely (even though I'm curious as to her decision) and hope she decides not to come. I think the entire situation is best left alone; best left to the occasional e-mail at most. Best left to a great memory. It's not that I don't think she's worth it. I think she's a really great person. But I think she needs to figure out what she wants and I don't want to be the one caught in the middle. I never considered her a girlfriend or anything and it's not like I was expecting a real relationship to form out of all of this. It seemed like two people connecting on a cerebral level. But when the line of sex is crossed it's hard not to expect to cross that line again in the future. And it can cause conflict and confusion when one of you wants it and the other isn't sure or doesn't want to. It's all a mind f**k. The thing I'm trying to understand is why or how things came full circle. I don't think I will ever understand that part of it - other than the fact that, if she is a 2, she wanted to lure me in and she was successful. I'm a toy she's done playing with. I can live with that, though. Sure, I could ask her but I don't want to beat a dead horse. And, given the fact that we're not understanding each other at present, it might even make things more confusing and complicated for both of us.
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