Posted by Susan on November 29, 2000 at 23:38:27:
In Reply to: I just cut a shadow 4 friend out of my life... posted by 2mama on November 29, 2000 at 22:06:05:
I would say that.....anyone who is this unhealthy can't be helped until they figure out that they gotta help themselves first. It sounds like she was very needy...tremendously needy. That can wear a person down and it is understandable that her repeated self-defeating episodes let you down. I'm wondering if spiritual or professional help would have been useful. It is kind of hard to tell, you did not state exactly what her bad behaviors are.
Sometimes people are just seeing how much bad behavior they can get away with. If they are not really sick, then they can see that they are losing friends and can correct their bad behavior themselves. At other times there are deeper problems that are running the show....depression, addictions, chemical imbalances, etc.
If you feel that she was just abusing your friendship then that is unhealthy for you. You don't need to be abused and if you told her the truth about that then fine. Move on with your life. If you think she has deeper more serious situations. I'd look into advice on how to approach her professionally.