Posted by Alias on November 30, 2000 at 03:06:06:
In Reply to: I just cut a shadow 4 friend out of my life... posted by 2mama on November 29, 2000 at 22:06:05:
As a type 4 I understand why you need to break away. Some people only want an emotional sponge not help. The amount of times I've sponged people who never wanted to change anything, and I'm the type 4!
The only thing I would add is, don't leave your ex-friend without a real solution. Tell her (or write!):
"Look, your problems are too deep and, frankly, to dangerous for me to handle. You need professional help. I advise you seek counselling. As it stands, I cannot help you with your problems which are deep seated not to arise and damaging to myself. I implore you to seek the help you actually need."
That way you leave and your conscience is completely clear - you have given her what she needs not what she wants.
Then just put the phone down when she calls. Why not take a holiday and leave her behind for a few days so she physically cannot contact you?
Love and life,
Laurence.