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Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive Re: AlrightPosted by Ana on December 31, 2000 at 01:09:04: In Reply to: Re: Alright posted by K.B. on December 30, 2000 at 13:53:23: : Hi Ana. {I assume this is a current or exboyfriend}. Right off the bat, your scores show a lot of similarities but the one glaring difference {the 4,5 is much higher in your score} shows that you understand him better than he understands you and that you tend to adapt to his style more than he does to yours. You both are introverts and neither of you dominate except in that way I mentioned. Yes, I understand him more than he understands me. I'm not sure what you mean by adapting to his style, but the thing we fight most about is not spending enough time together (I would except for schedules). : You may wish he were more of a thinker but you like him the way he is to some extent. There could be or will be a problem when it comes to improvement issues. His idea of improvement is nowhere near yours in terms of insight or creativity. You may be bored with his lack of fervor for doing anything or changing anything, as well as you valuing activity more than he does. I help him a lot with improvement :) I need some myself though :-\ : Things that bother him may be the cause of his innui. I wonder if his score is accurate or if his problems are making the score turn out the way it did. He may be protecting his mind at this time by cocooning himself. You probably have thought of this. : The two of you feel close to each other and bonded together in some ways. It would be very hard for either of you to leave.Since your scores are this similar in most ways, you and he probably always felt you both had much in common. Probably it was "sensed" from the beginning. It basically sounds like you and he are soulmates and I guess you are hoping he will evolve into more of a creative thinker. It may be so. Good luck, K.B.
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