4c1 attitude: you're responsible for your own "hissy fits."

Posted by Freddie on December 31, 2000 at 13:59:34:

Please note, I do not intend to make this assertion from a standpoint of superiority. This is an issue that I deal with as much as anyone (that's not an exaggeration). In fact, since I generally mind my own business, I would not take terms with this issue if it did not apply to me directly.

Anyway... you're responsible for the way you handle your emotions. Your emotions themselves may be impetuous, and the bad boy's behavior "A" may lead to your emotion "B," but the responsibility for your behavior in response to this emotion falls upon you.

And nobody else can be bound by liability to them. They may be held liable for their own actions, but you are to be held liable for your reaction. In short, an inappropriate overreaction on your part does not increase the liability of the "provoker." Nor do you become justified in overreacting.

In success coaching, this is called "initiative," "pro-activity," and "maturity" (which is not a misnomer in this case, I would say).

I'll write more about this later; I'm late I'm late for a very important date.

(That's work, btw :)

Meantime, any opinions on this?

Freddie

Follow Ups:

• I recognize this Bartholomew 13:01:56 01/02/01 (4)
  • Re: I recognize this Ana 16:59:12 01/02/01 (3)
    • Re: I recognize this Bartholomew 20:49:51 01/02/01 (1)
      • Hmm, thanks I will try that (observing, not expending) nt Ana 18:42:16 01/03/01 (0)
    • Re: I recognize this Freddie 19:05:14 01/02/01 (0)
• What is a 'hissy fit'? It sounds great. nt Tiggy 19:41:52 01/01/01 (2)
  • It makes me think of a 'fizzy hit' -- whatever that means nt Mikko 06:00:29 01/02/01 (0)
  • Re: What is a 'hissy fit'? It sounds great. nt Freddie 20:29:39 01/01/01 (0)
• Translated from the double talk- The provoker wishes to expunge himself of guilt. Board Mouse 17:53:22 12/31/00 (1)
  • Guilt does not exist in this case. Illustrations of principles do exist, and points are crying out to be made. Freddie [nt] 21:58:11 12/31/00 (0)
• Re: 4c1 attitude: you're responsible for your own "hissy fits." S. K. 16:55:05 12/31/00 (3)
  • Sure, it was on subject. Freddie 21:54:38 12/31/00 (2)
    • So, Freddie, how do you react when someone hits your sore spots? [nt] Mikko 11:56:53 01/01/01 (1)
      • That depends, but nonetheless, I do. And I know it's nobody's responsibility but my own. Freddie 13:20:23 01/01/01 (0)
• Not true Lurccio 14:26:59 12/31/00 (3)
  • Then the second driver is as lousy at driving as you are! Freddie [nt] 23:37:16 12/31/00 (2)
    • So! Its everybodys fault in a 7 car collision? Lurccio 16:50:42 01/01/01 (1)
      • Do you regularly blame others for your overreactions? If so, it should follow that your station in life is not exactly enviable. They want to keep you there, and they will, because they own you. You're their little child. Freddie [nt] 17:59:26 01/01/01 (0)

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