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Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive Translated from the double talk- The provoker wishes to expunge himself of guilt.Posted by Board Mouse on December 31, 2000 at 17:53:22: In Reply to: 4c1 attitude: you're responsible for your own "hissy fits." posted by Freddie on December 31, 2000 at 13:59:34: : Please note, I do not intend to make this assertion from a standpoint of superiority. This is an issue that I deal with as much as anyone (that's not an exaggeration). In fact, since I generally mind my own business, I would not take terms with this issue if it did not apply to me directly. : Anyway... you're responsible for the way you handle your emotions. Your emotions themselves may be impetuous, and the bad boy's behavior "A" may lead to your emotion "B," but the responsibility for your behavior in response to this emotion falls upon you. : And nobody else can be bound by liability to them. They may be held liable for their own actions, but you are to be held liable for your reaction. In short, an inappropriate overreaction on your part does not increase the liability of the "provoker." Nor do you become justified in overreacting. : In success coaching, this is called "initiative," "pro-activity," and "maturity" (which is not a misnomer in this case, I would say). : I'll write more about this later; I'm late I'm late for a very important date. : (That's work, btw :) : Meantime, any opinions on this? : Freddie
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