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Re: Unequal feelings in relationships
Re: Unequal feelings in relationships
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Posted by sam on September 04, 1999 at 16:27:08:
In Reply to: Re: Unequal feelings in relationships posted by Summer on September 02, 1999 at 14:35:31:
Sure it makes sense.
Finding the "I" in self is something That I have searched all these years
to determind that is what I need to do. Now, perhaps you can help by way of
examples, experiences, how did you become aware of when the self was being
demininshed, or rather, what clues, indicators, feelings rose to the level
of awareness which then clued you to find your 'self'; and when you looked
for your 'self' what nurturing did you perform on your 'self'. I am not looking for THE answers to the quest, because each of us are
differenct. What I seek from you is awareness by way of your experiences.
I constantly 'read' those who I am with, and shift when I sense a distancing
from me - what is a shift? When I don't receive what I need: acknowledgement
of my self. Comedians, I believe do comedy for their 'self', their
'good boy' to receive affirmation that they are there, they exist to
emotionally move someone to laughter. I am not aware yet of what to do when I shift, the shift is very powerful
and usually moves me to isolate, if the shift does not provide a fulfilling
response. Why Isolate, because historicly my 'shift', if it didn't bring
acknowledgment, it brought punishment - therefore dodge.
Your thoughts....
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