Re: Defining I and Self

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: Thanks for the clarity on quaqua and the sharing of values... : If we don't feel comfortable with certain people or groups of people, it isn't necessarily that we are shy or uncomfortable with ourselves, but it can be that those : people don't share our values and this comes out in the things they say, manner and attitudes. Also in the things they like to do and talk about. : This is where the little voice in me whispers 'introvert' because the talk : which is difficult to be involved is usually about 'doing', 'going', to me : it seems to be a form of creditionaling - doing something more exciting, : than... : I am a 'being' person... : What exciting thing are you doing this weekend? I am afraid to say, reading a book, visiting a friend, driving to the beach. : because this is not at the elevated level of 'exciting' things as compared : to those stated in the group : The extravert I believe is interested, involved just the having of a conversation : where I want to be involved in the content of the conversation. When I start to : discuss content, seems the subject shifts to the next exciting thing - the pace slowed, therefore lets shift. : accomplished...I am tuned out. This is where your insight 'don't share the same values' I believe holds true for me. : This frustrates me because the 'chit chat' for some is a bonding exerience : which is less so for me - Sharing the intimate, the feelings and thoughts : are more nurturing to me and I bond well with the thought-full...though : they seem to be the minority. The thought-full, that which was not when a forming child. : I have always wished I could 'lighten up' and go with the flow, but this : runs contrary to ME, no matter how hard I try. : On Gin: : I have often thought about 'priming' the extravert in me, but refrain - why do : I refrain...fear. Though I was once taking for depression Prozac, with Welbutrin : and Retilin - I was a extravert for about 6 months, then was 'weaned' off the drugs. : : Patronized and misunderstood by those who don't take the time. I have two : older brothers (are you the youngest ... too?) and they are in their bliss, : don't have questions as I, aren't alone as I, workaholics - not aware: I : wish for their bliss! Hear the resounding "Why am I so different?"! : Not heard, not understood...wanting, wanting affirmation that: I am. : : Sam

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