Re: Name of book?

Posted by Jasper on September 08, 1999 at 17:12:43:

In Reply to: Re: Name of book? posted by Summer on September 08, 1999 at 16:27:32:

: Yes, I've been meaning to buy that latest book of Riso's. Is that the one with wisdom in the title? It looks good...

: I know what you mean about 3's. I have trouble with average to lower average 3's too. My girlfriend falls under this category & she can be a real handful sometimes. Right now, I have to get some space from her because she is behaving in very annoying ways. I decided it's best for me to ignore her, rather than point out what she seems to be doing. That is hard for me, but talking to her about anything too deep & personal only brings on conflict - and I have better things to worry about in my life than making sure she is being honest with herself & others ---S*

I am at work and don't have the book in front of me, but I went onto Amazon.com: "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Riso and Russ Hudson (each has contributed to a different aspect of the book but can't remember which). The book came out in paperback in June, 1999, and all the reader reviews give it excellent marks. I have referred back to it in between many of these message board discussions, especially reading the healthy and unhealthy 4w3 and 4w5 types. And the nine type as well.

Sorry about your girlfriend. But I think that if she really cares about you she will realize some of your deeper needs are not being met and will either try harder to listen or give you more space to explore this aspect of yourself on your own (the second option is not necessarily a bad thing in the short term)--but over the long haul she has got to find a way acknowledge what you are feeling. (Maybe have her read portions of the Enneagram book on threes and fours). I sort of understand, as my roommate is a six, and while very kind, sixes are so concerned about getting loyalty, comfort and security from the other person (an on the surface concept)that there is usually not much left for more in-depth understanding of feeling type concepts, though ironically sixes esp. 6w5 can be so intelligent (science, figuring things out, constructing things). But I have to be grateful in a way, for had I been living instead with a one or an eight, it would have felt like being a mouse in the lair of the cat. As for threes, it would never happen because they don't take to me. Life can be so bizarre, go figure. --J

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