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Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive Re: "Meeting" people (corrolating to the post below)Posted by Tigs. on September 08, 1999 at 18:53:14: In Reply to: "Meeting" people (corrolating to the post below) posted by Matches on September 08, 1999 at 00:39:11: Meeting people - I find it quite easy to introduce myself to complete strangers. If you can manage to look relaxed and comfortable about it, then they will feel more comfortable in responding. I assume the role/part of the society hostess, fluent in the social graces, used to taking an interest in people and putting them at their ease. I feel quite comfortable in this role so I don't feel it's false because it is a part of me. (My family were always polite and hospitable, but not sophisticated. Of course i am genuine as well, so not superficial. I can be genuinely interested in old ladies on buses when they talk to me about their lives. If the person is shy, you have to be careful not to overwhelm them. One girl I met was so shy that she couldn't cope with me being friendly towards her and actually taking an interest; she just wasn't used to it. i find it difficult meeting shy people unless they're children who you can just make big eyes at and smile. I believe a town/village should be a community, so I enjoy talking to people who serve me in shops etc. rather than relating to them in their job role or as a faceless tool. With meeting someone you've already met on line, it's just like you're meeting them again with additonal information available (visual/auditory/mannerisms/tone - quite a lot really - but in some second meetings off line you also get a lot more info. eg meeting someone with their family, at work, when they're in a bad mood. tigs.
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