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Enneagram Type 4 Board Archive As requested..Posted by Matches on September 09, 1999 at 01:16:28: In Reply to: Re: Motivation and desire.. posted by Jasper on September 08, 1999 at 15:32:24: I always read and often respond. Unfortunately, I think I ought to quit asking people what they think I should do, when I know full well that I can't do it. I do it all the time. I complain about something, people resond with sound advice, and I convince myself that, although its good advice, I just can't do it.... : : Excellent advice, Jasper! It sounds very much like you're depressed, Matches, and just don't want to admit it to yourself. For me, this always came out as a lack of motivation. I have little problem admitting to myself that I'm depressed. But I wonder am I depressed partly because of my lack of motivation, or is it more what you said, my depression that has infected my will.
This is all well and good, but nothing I really care about matters to anyone. In the original post I used the phrase "societal value." Nothing I care about has anything to do with anyone else. All I do is "play." Instead of writing papers for class, I write scripts for movies that will never be filmed. Instead of going to work and making some cash, I scan the internet for the latest hockey news. : : One more suggestion (yeah, I know I said I only had one...) I've found a great deal of value in getting involved in the community and doing things for others. Again, it's good even though you don't feel like it. It helps you to get out of yourself when you focus on what you can do for others, and an activity makes it easier to meet people. Just go into it without any expectations, and do it for its own sake. It takes some amount of faith to find the motivation to go through with this, and my own faith is not at all strong much of the time. So from one sometimes depressed, often faithless person to another, give it a try. :-) : : - Hal - Again, the earth would have to open at my feet for me to get off my ass (can I say ass?) and do something like that. Heck, today I wanted to go up to the mall, (about a 2 minute drive) to see the new stores. I didn't. Why not? I don't know.... I WANTED to....just never did... : Great add ons Hal. Now we can only hope Matches reads them--and maybe responds to us. I have tested out your theory in actuality--community service. It works. By helping others, you take the focus off yourself without even realizing it because you're totally invested in the other person(s). Then before you know it, the others are thanking you so much for caring, and that of course boosts your own self esteem.
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