Sorry for the late response

Posted by Ev on September 10, 1999 at 15:56:23:

In Reply to: Re: I'll try - - - - :-( posted by Summer on September 10, 1999 at 12:26:14:

: Oh God, thank for responding. I guess it's not just this job. It's my whole lack of career & lack of meaning in my life. I am feeling terrible about it - but also very ashamed. This shame keeps me from telling people about it, even those who are close to me. Or especially those who are close to me.

I can't imagine why you should be feeling ashamed. We 4's tend to forget that most other people go through life every bit as confused as we are about why we're here and what "our life's work" is supposed to be. They have the same concerns...they just don't tend to *dwell* on them like we do. Give yourself a break for once. You'll be doing no more that the rest of the souls on planet Earth are doing. :)

: It's one of those days when everything is adding up. There are some things within my friendships that are disturbing me. Do I expect too much, or am I just looking at everything negatively because I feel so depressed? I don't know - - -

My guess is that your somber mood is distorting your view on the other aspects of your life. If you believe there to be problems within your friendships wait to work on that issue at some other time. As your mood improves, and it certainly will, you may find that you no longer have the same concerns and that things in your life are *MUCH* better than they seem at the moment. It sounds trite to tell someone who's going through a painful time that "This too shall pass", but it's the absolute truth! I've always believed that if we can resist the urge to be soooo self critical during the bad times the good times will appear much sooner. You're a much better, more worthwhile person than you're giving yourself credit for right now. Time will prove this out, just wait and see.

: I am still hurt by the loss of my former friend, the 5w4. Everything seems wrong. Nothing seems right. And I don't feel like I'm going anywhere....

: Ok, I'm also seeing someone new, and we had a misunderstanding/hurt/fight - I don't know what you call it -but we haven't spoken in a couple of days & it's killing me.

If he's someone you need in your life things will work out. People who care for and about each other can overcome seemingly impossible obstacles. If a little spat severs the tie then consider yourself to be fortunate to have found out early.

: Everything's adding up, and when that happens, I feel like it is doomsday and I'll never come out of it - - - -I know that is silly, but God it all hurts so much

I'm so very sorry that you're having a hard time of it right now. But do keep in mind that "right now" is what you're dealing with. Your whole life lies before you and it holds great promise. Don't let your present state obscure that truth. :)

Ev

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• Re: Thanks, all ;-) Summer 16:30:14 9/10/99 (3)
  • Re: Thanks, all ;-) Jasper 11:37:07 9/13/99 (0)
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  • Re: regarding our purpose in life Cecil 20:13:35 9/10/99 (0)

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