Posted by heatherb on May 30, 2001 at 03:44:10:
In Reply to: Parents posted by Shaggy on May 29, 2001 at 18:28:20:
: Do any Fours out there have a type 6 and/or type 2 parent? What is your relationship like with them? My mother is a 2w1 or 6, and I (probably 4w5, with a conenction to 6) have come to feel guilty for not showing her the affection she would like; we've also clashed on her sometimes over-protective nature. And I have blamed her for the fear and anxiety that is often present in me. And my father is a 6w5, and while we get along well enough, I see him as somewhat corny, moralistic, and devoutly religious. Id just like to hear from 4s with parents of the compliant triad, particularly 2s and 6s. Thanks.
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I'm pretty sure my mom is a two... And I've had similar issues with her as the ones you mention... The main one has always been her need to feel appreciated, making us feel guilty when she was feeling unappreciated. I remember always having to apologize for not having known that she would have liked me to do this or that... and also telling her that she has to realize that we can't read her mind! Her philosophy has always been "do unto others what you'd like them to do unto you..." so of course, she would do something for someone, and then expect that to be done for her the next day... Or she'd expect some kind of gesture in return. And if not, she would get all upset and in a fuss, act like a martyr, and we would all be racking our brains trying to figure out what we did wrong... She wouldn't say what the matter was until a day would go by.
Anyway! I love her a lot though... but that's the main issue I have with her. It's a real drama when she's feeling unappreciated.