Re: Blanche Fleur, Fire in the Belly, Iron John

Posted by fu*k on June 23, 2001 at 18:27:31:

In Reply to: Blanche Fleur, Fire in the Belly, Iron John posted by Slow, Slow, Quick-Quick, Slow.... on June 23, 2001 at 16:53:34:

You will be perceived as reasonable, gentle, kind, understanding,
: and, yet, something will be missing. That something will be the 9s independent assertion of a passion for life which would fuel the desired
: drama.

****ack. this is how i feel. i want my nine to have more of "the independent assertion of a passion for life". i a four, and date a nine. i'm pretty healthy, i think, and so is he, but i always have this haunting feeling that something is missing, cause he doesn't seem to have enough of this. i can't even fight with him, cause he always manages to agree with all sides at once. i think he gets the same stuff out of our relationship as you do, Russel. he always says that i make him feel good, he loves the way that i "feel" so intensely, and that i make him happier than anyone else ever has.
and nines are so good for healing in their presence, (not that my nine is trying to change me, he thinks i am "perfect") but i have noticed that i can easily confront my old scars, and heal them just by being with him. i have learned to shut up my hyper self-critical inner voice a lot of the time.

still, sometimes i get this weird feeling that our relationship is doomed, just cause we are 4 ad 9. i'm scared that eventually i will not be satisfied with the soothing comfort of the 9, that i will need a 7 or something for more action. i guess it could be the missing drama that i need. f*ck. again. its so confusing trying to think about my 9, cause you know how an 8 is like a brick wall, a 9 is like fog, swirling around you and confusing the hell out of you.

for you, i don't think you should take those manipulative games she is playing. i think that is manipulative and mean, no matter who does that. being a 4 is No excuse.

um, anyone have advice for me??? anyone i talk to just says, well, he seems like a nice guy, its up to you, except for my best freind who has never approved of our relationship. she has the same view as five4 on the chat board does of the 9-7 relationship. apparently i am not as fun anymore, and she thinks i am just hypnotised by his comfort.

f*ck

janis

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