Re: Relationship ideals (typos/missing words corrected)

Posted by Missy on June 24, 2001 at 23:58:24:

In Reply to: Relationship ideals (typos/missing words corrected) posted by pork ^(oo)^ on June 24, 2001 at 19:20:13:

I am trying to understand what you're saying here. Sometimes I wish you could just speak in simplier language. It just seems like you speak the language of a psychologist or like a businessman. no offense.

: If you have a romantic or sexual attraction to someone, you can follow one of two courses, or maybe some degree of both, in your subsequent decisions. The extreme you come *closest* to will probably determine the outcome of the relationship:

I agree with this in a sense.

: 1) You can run off with your impulsive emotions and libido.

: 2) You can attempt to cultivate friendship and respect.

: Theoretically, there are the extremes:

: If you follow the first path excessively, you'll probably have either a one-night stand or a short stint.

Some of the most passionate love affairs go on to being completely great and healthy relationships.

: If you follow the second course to the complete detriment of the romantic and sexual element, you may be tormented by your own moral conscience or inhibitions, or whatever is holding you back.

I'm not sure what you mean by this.

the latter is good, and some of the greatest relationships are started this way too. :) but sometimes you get so used to friendship that you are afraid to risk it for more of a relationship, just speaking in general here.

: The ideal path is probably in the middle, vacillating now and then toward either extreme, for habitual diversions of exciting passion and altruistic love, respectively, but returning consistently to the foundational point between the two.

: Extraverted, impulsive people may do well to temper themselves toward their latent need for a foundation of friendship and respect; even a small step this direction would be beneficial.

all extraverted and implusive people have a foundation of friendship in a sense even if it is a small one.

and who are you referring to here?

: Idealistic people, like me, often express a desire for a middle-of-the-road approach, yet our idealism leads also to an inhibiting self-consciousness that compels us to stunt, second-guess, and question the rightness of our impulses. Thus, we might do well to let loose once in a while... again, even if only a little bit.

It benfits everyone to let loose every once in a while.

: When we started dating, I wasn't looking for a relationship at the time. So I sought a friendship instead, and the nature of our minds and hearts slowly took their course. I'm glad we have a foundation, so we can enjoy each other's company during those occasional times that we don't feel like pursuing the excitement of romantic attraction. We all have times like that, and if the wayward bond of romance is the *only* thing you have, then you may completely lose interest in your "loved one."

that's what dating is all about is getting to know the person, and then comes the relationship. every relationship needs a foundation and I'm glad we have one. yes, friendship is an important part of the relationship and you also need a little romance to keep the interest too.
if you get my drift. ;)

: Later :)

: pork ^(oo)^
later too. :)
^^Missy

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