Posted by Rhonda on July 31, 2001 at 03:39:36:
In Reply to: attn: 4s! advice needed posted by ben on July 31, 2001 at 01:28:35:
Hi
Well, this is really tough for you cause, you're the guy, & guys are generally obliged to take the lead. Some women will not approach a man because they think that the man should make the first move. Some of the logic behind it is, if a guy *really* likes a girl, he will make a move, & if he doesn't that means he's not interested enuf, or is probably taken.
So, that being said, you should just smile & actually say "Hi" & then you are allowed to ask something dumb like, "are you from here?" or any kind of question that will get a conversation going. See if you can get some her interests. If she's a student, what is she studying, then find out if she likes music, or movies or whatever & then, just put into the conversation, "Do you wanna hang out sometime" & if she says yes, then you could propose "well, we could do (her interest here)"
If she avoids the get together, she's probably taken. If she hesitates, but says yes, then she's just being coy.
Anyway, the risk is yours. THis is one of the places where it is tough being a guy.
Let us know how it goes.
R
: hey, i need some advice, cause i'm unsure how to proceed here. i have a monster crush on this 45 i know who lives near me. i hardly ever see her, tho, except in passing, and i don't really know how to approach her without seeming too forward and chasing her away. what's a 4 looking for in a romantic partner? i'm a 5w4, if that helps any. i'd like to at least promote her up from acquaintance to bona-fide friend. she seems like she likes me, but it's so impossible for me to tell, and she's kinda distant in that mysterious 4ish way, and i'm not sure if maybe that's her way of telling me to back off or baiting me on to follow. i'm confused. any insight or info would be greatly appreciated.
: ben