Posted by Mikko on July 31, 2001 at 19:00:35:
In Reply to: Re: attn: 4s! advice needed posted by emoot on July 31, 2001 at 12:11:28:
: I think shy four girls appreciate being pursued. I did anyway. You gotta make the first move. Try to strike up a conversation in the hallway or if you see her out walking. Compliment her clothes or hairstyle. If she seems like she likes you, she probably won't run away. Ask her about herself, what she does, what she likes, etc.
--Some people are able to stand up for themselves. Others turn any kind of interaction which can be interpreted as usage of power into something like this.
: In college I dated a 5w4 (computer science major). He met me at a party and I was thankful that he initiated the conversation. We had a pleasant talk. Basically, he found out all the information about me he could, without being pushy. He was really respectful, funny and sweet. Plus he let me know that he wrote poetry. For some reason that always got big points with me.
--Did he actually ever find out he scored big points with you?
: I can't remember if I gave him my phone number or not, but anyway he called two days later and invited me to go walking with him. He kept the atmoshpere really casual which made me really comfortble. He went out of his way to be caring.
--I've been in athmospheres so relaxed I've almost fallen asleep.
: I don't know that approach worked really well on this 4w5.
: good luck,
: emoot
Mikko